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The vulnerability in love and relationships is a given. The cost we pay for opening up is often also the benefit of being known, something every human being strives for.  U. Galimberti starts his book on love saying that intimate relationships are on the one hand the only place where one can really express theirContinue reading “Love is vulnerability”

Securely attached people don’t fear relationships and vulnerability, they are not scared of abandonment. And why is that? Losing someone we love is painful for everybody, so how come securely attached adults don’t live with this anxiety? The consistency they have experienced in their childhood allows them to unconsciously predict a good outcome, and ifContinue reading “I can feel this, and it’s not your fault”

We have seen how, depending on how safe we felt in our first years, we develop some expectations on how future relationships will be. Let’s now look at the four main types of attachment more in detail. Children who can separate from their parents safely, knowing they will find support when they come back (aContinue reading “Attachment styles”

Sometimes we might find our current relationship to be oddly similar to a previous one. The people we are dating are different, but some dynamics keep coming up. Why is it so common to repeat patterns in our relationships? Attachment theory gives some important answers to this question.  Since our birth, we start engaging inContinue reading “Repetition and expectations in relationships”

Relationships: the place where some of the biggest issues of life lie. How to relate to others, how to be independent from others, how to give them the right space in our life, how to avoid making them our coping strategy, how to detach the image we have of ourselves from the one others haveContinue reading “How do we relate?”

“Happiness is only real when shared” is the conclusive statement of a famous movie.Christopher McCandless flees conventional society, of which he has increasingly grown disenchanted, and goes to live into the wilds of Alaska, with the only company of books, reflection and himself. Disappointed and cynical about human relationships, he seeks with determination the solitudeContinue reading “Is happiness only real when shared?”

What have we learned during this month? Hopefully, we have a new perspective on our body.When our usual headache kicks in, we can take some time to reflect: “When was the last time I had one? What had happened that is similar to this time? Perhaps I get one when I am stressed and needContinue reading “Learning the language of our body”

We have seen how our body is interconnected, if not inseparable, with our mind, and how this led to its increased integration in psychology and psychotherapy.⁣⁣We have seen how the body speaks at a louder voice than the mind, and informs us about our needs, if we are careful enough to listen.⁣⁣We have seen howContinue reading “Physical exercise and mental health”

Have you ever heard of body psychotherapy?⁣It’s a form of psychotherapy based on the idea that people experience the world simultaneously through their mind and their body. ⁣⁣There are five essential concepts of body psychotherapy:⁣1. Bodymind: the embodied integration of thoughts, feelings, and physical bodily experiences and sensations.⁣2. Armoring and character: armor is a muscleContinue reading “Body psychotherapy”

Sometimes the body knows things our conscience ignores. And this is not only true for somatisation and trauma, it’s not only about expressing what the mind needs or lacks, it’s also much more. When we approach the concept of FLOW, it’s useful to understand an important difference: the one between instinct and intuition. While theContinue reading “The wisdom of our body: the state of FLOW”