Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 6

The series comes to an end, and together with the last two arguments we also delineate some important take-home messages of the whole book. First, we go back to the statement “It’s better to enjoy than to live”, trying to explore how the desire has in it a dark part that feeds not on wellbeingContinue reading “Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 6”

A final reflection on ambivalence

It’s almost the end of our ambivalence month. We talked, up until now, about the ambivalence that constitutes our roots, the coexistence of opposing realities that can find a space to live together, to keep confronting each other. But some ambivalences are much more urgent. Choosing between two jobs, deciding whether to stop smoking, havingContinue reading “A final reflection on ambivalence”

Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 5

Today, we explore what it means to adhere to the reality principle, seeing some common solutions of cognitive therapies, and highlighting the stance of psychodynamic ones. This difference helps us understand the theories behind these two approaches, and how they focus, respectively, on normality and uniqueness as a starting point for helping the patient. Then,Continue reading “Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 5”

Replace ‘but’ with ‘and’

For M. Klein, being able to feel ambivalent towards someone – or something – was an incredible accomplishment and sign of psychological maturity. The child starts learning about ambivalence during what she calls the ‘depressive position’. Very simply explained, it’s the moment where the child starts peaking into the complexity of human nature. This fillsContinue reading “Replace ‘but’ with ‘and’”

Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 4

Are we condemned to never overcome our earliest experiences? Did we already form our identity in our first years of life, and everything that came afterwards is just an attempt to make sense of it? Or perhaps, memory is a process in itself. While we remember, we create. The first part leads us through theContinue reading “Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 4”

Can we condemn without detaching?

I believe we should take the time to speak about what’s important, and ask the hard questions. The privileged of us should speak up, put their louder voice at the service of the ones who are not listened. And, like it happened during the #BLM protests, let go of the Ego for a bit, ofContinue reading “Can we condemn without detaching?”

Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 3

With this third episode we dive into what it means to accept one’s desire, and how this does not coincide necessarily with a happy and tranquil life. We see how much easier it can be to just surrender to the expectations of others, as opposed to pursuing our desire – what Lacan calls ‘encountering theContinue reading “Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 3”

Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 2

Today, we dive into the connections between our concept of identity and our unconscious; we see how the rigidity of our definitions causes a risk of rupture between us and our most personal desire, our creative Self.Then, we look into the ethical issue of responsibility in relationship to this new concept of symptom: if IContinue reading “Eulogy of the unconscious – Part 2”

Thesis, Antithesis, Synthesis

How many times life gives us the impression of moving in circles, rather than straight, towards a destination?  And how many times those destinations feel like yet another beginning? There’s not even the time to realise we arrived, and we are already leaving.  We fantasise about places that we haven’t reached, situations that we haven’tContinue reading “Thesis, Antithesis, Synthesis”

The force in interaction

The analyst is the expert in the exploration The analysand is the owner of the territory Richard L. Rubens ⁣These words capture that intangible force we experience in therapy; never fully the client’s, never completely the therapist’s.⁣That force, that has led many of us to liberation, revolution, awareness, is created in the interaction between two,Continue reading “The force in interaction”