There’s a reason why it’s so hard for a politician to tell their potential electors they will tax people more. Those people will probably not vote for them.Similarly, it’s hard for a psychologist to say that therapy doesn’t always make you feel better immediately and that it takes long to get deep inside yourself andContinue reading “Hello darkness, my estranged friend”
Tag Archives: well being
Too fast to go anywhere
I always enjoyed trains. What seems now to be treated as a meme of neurodivergence is actually not an uncommon trait.Ask around, and many people will tell you they find trains relaxing or soothing in some intangible way. With due exceptions, like crowdedness or Italian delays, there is some comfort in moving while being still.Continue reading “Too fast to go anywhere”
Eyes on the goal and away from you
The person who really knows what they want has a good reputation in our society. Assertive, voracious, desiring and desirable. “She really knows what she wants”, similar to “he’s a self made man”. Almost a mythological creature.Raised by wolves or aliens, the person who knows what she wants is usually a doer. She sees, sheContinue reading “Eyes on the goal and away from you”
Unclear messages
My skin talks a lot. It goes on and on and on about everything and nothing and most of the time I can’t even grasp what it’s telling me. – You don’t know what happened to me the other day. Unbelievable!– What?– This crazy thing! Crazy things always happen to me. Like have I everContinue reading “Unclear messages”
Shuffled observation
Let’s say you’re in front of the mirror, and by lifting up your right arm you notice a small pimple on your elbow. You’d go check with your left hand to confirm its texture, expecting something quite specific. You’ll confirm it’s a pimple quickly, with a simple touch. Similarly, you might check your hair, observeContinue reading “Shuffled observation”
The incel in me
It’s very hard to make distinctions of suffering. At best, it raises the question of why should we even attempt that. Which pain is worse, which pain is better, who suffers more between me and you. What a vulgar way to treat creatures. In 1951, a German psychoanalyst called Karen Horney wrote a book withContinue reading “The incel in me”
Hold that thought
I have started a training in Yin Yoga, after one in Vinyasa. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, let me give a brief and simplistic explanation that will anger the advocates of complexity (including myself): Vinyasa is centered around a “flowy”, dynamic practice, while Yin is based on holding poses for longer. LookingContinue reading “Hold that thought”
Meeting in which middle?
Let’s be honest: how silly and irrational are horoscopes? Imagine believing star signs have any meaning other than the one we arbitrarily attach to them, and now imagine me really saying this and meaning it. Boom, did I trick you into keep reading? Maybe, but only for less than a paragraph. Now that you’re here,Continue reading “Meeting in which middle?”
Healing to make space
I’ve had some muscle tension lately. There’s this spot on my back that loyally starts hurting when my mind’s too heavy. Sometimes I just get pain out of being ruthless, others by stretching too hard, but this is really the signature pain of worries. Then there has been rumination about taxes and things to do.Continue reading “Healing to make space”
Eyes on you
I’m sure you can picture this scene with uncanny precision: you’re entering a room, someone is leaving it, and at the door you engage in the dance of left-right-left to let each other pass, but it becomes increasingly harder the more you try to predict the other person’s movement, because they are also predicting yours,Continue reading “Eyes on you”
Empatherapy 