No matter how many times we’ve heard (or maybe you’re hearing it now for the first time?) that our cells renew on average every decade, making us for the most part a different person multiple times in a lifetime, we are still very attached to the idea of a stable, firm self. It’s partly comforting,Continue reading “A glimpse of a maze”
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“Have fun!”
There’s something paradoxical about telling someone to “have fun!”, the same way it’s ironic to invite them to “relax!” (exclamation mark included). It might replace, at times, creating the conditions necessary to do those things, and delegate that to an encouragement. I might be on the sofa snacking chips, with no interest in entertaining you,Continue reading ““Have fun!””
You are your audience
One of my favorite activities is dancing. I interpret that in the broadest way possible, from tapping with my foot on the table while music is playing, to mimicking the moves of over-the-top entertainers. In between, there is going to places with live music or DJ sets (preferably during the day, outside, in the sun)Continue reading “You are your audience”
ASAP
It doesn’t matter how busy it is, August is often sleepy. You might be working just like any other month (or even more in my case), but around you the air is suspended, summer rejects all urgency. Nothing responds well to musts in this season. It’s a different stillness than the one we feel inContinue reading “ASAP”
Is there snow at the beach?
“Can you fill up a glass that has holes?” We have all invested energies in something, hoping for a specific result while getting a different one over and over. The human mind has an impeccable way to optimize its energies to attain certain results. This might be hard to imagine if you constantly end upContinue reading “Is there snow at the beach?”
May you exasperate yourself
People change for two reasons: Both are not enough to change, but at least one is necessary. Deep, self-sustaining, genuine change is not (just) about developing new habits — this is helpful to live a better life, but doesn’t have a long-lasting impact if it’s not supported by valid reasons.Authentic change requires making a betContinue reading “May you exasperate yourself”
Being both, being all
I was getting rid of old receipts and papers that periodically accumulate inside my phone case, and I found one saying “You know how to balance opposing opinions”. The bold is mine, because the word caught my attention. It came up exactly today, when this morning I asked on Instagram “what is your idea ofContinue reading “Being both, being all”
Is the glass dirty?
Humans tend to flaunt their ability to be objective. We trust our perception to be an accurate depiction of reality and our reactions to be generally appropriate to the situation. Appropriate in the sense that anyone would understand how we got there, feeling exactly what we are feeling, and having the exact opinion we areContinue reading “Is the glass dirty?”
If only…
“If only this was different”, I hear this a lot. Usually the difference desired is small, it’s a centimeter in a whole house, a letter in a whole paragraph. “If only I could have 95 instead than 94”, said with a melancholy certainty that 95 would really mean happiness and, even more importantly, the endContinue reading “If only…”
Lives lived inside our heads
Much of my work lately is centered around choices. How difficult yet liberating it is to make them; how scary yet thrilling it is to leave something behind. We often miss the real point when we feel our life will shrink when defining things. Life usually expands when it confronts reality. It shrinks inside ourContinue reading “Lives lived inside our heads”
Empatherapy 