People change for two reasons: Both are not enough to change, but at least one is necessary. Deep, self-sustaining, genuine change is not (just) about developing new habits — this is helpful to live a better life, but doesn’t have a long-lasting impact if it’s not supported by valid reasons.Authentic change requires making a betContinue reading “May you exasperate yourself”
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Being both, being all
I was getting rid of old receipts and papers that periodically accumulate inside my phone case, and I found one saying “You know how to balance opposing opinions”. The bold is mine, because the word caught my attention. It came up exactly today, when this morning I asked on Instagram “what is your idea ofContinue reading “Being both, being all”
Is the glass dirty?
Humans tend to flaunt their ability to be objective. We trust our perception to be an accurate depiction of reality and our reactions to be generally appropriate to the situation. Appropriate in the sense that anyone would understand how we got there, feeling exactly what we are feeling, and having the exact opinion we areContinue reading “Is the glass dirty?”
If only…
“If only this was different”, I hear this a lot. Usually the difference desired is small, it’s a centimeter in a whole house, a letter in a whole paragraph. “If only I could have 95 instead than 94”, said with a melancholy certainty that 95 would really mean happiness and, even more importantly, the endContinue reading “If only…”
Lives lived inside our heads
Much of my work lately is centered around choices. How difficult yet liberating it is to make them; how scary yet thrilling it is to leave something behind. We often miss the real point when we feel our life will shrink when defining things. Life usually expands when it confronts reality. It shrinks inside ourContinue reading “Lives lived inside our heads”
The need for time
Amongst the most valuable things I’ve learned with therapy was a better relationship with time. In the past, time for me was always either too little or too much. I was enjoying a night with friends, and thinking “oh, if only it could last longer”, then somehow miss what was happening right in front ofContinue reading “The need for time”
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